On this, the day that the Institute releases the “New Conversation on Marriage,” I found this story by LGBT leader Shane Windmeyer about his unlikely friendship with Chik-fil-A president Dan Cathty truly remarkable.
Some things that struck me.
“We both wanted to be respected and for others to understand our views. Neither of us could — or would — change. It was not possible. We were different but in dialogue. That was progress.”
“Dan sought first to understand, not to be understood.”
“ I will not change my views, and Dan will likely not change his, but we can continue to listen, learn and appreciate “the blessing of growth” that happens when we know each other better.”
“In the end, it is not about eating (or eating a certain chicken sandwich). It is about sitting down at a table together and sharing our views as human beings, engaged in real, respectful, civil dialogue. Dan would probably call this act the biblical definition of hospitality. I would call it human decency. So long as we are all at the same table and talking, does it matter what we call it or what we eat?”
They are not ignoring their serious moral differences. They are not pretending that they don’t exist. But they are also refusing to let those moral differences polarize them, and they appear to be trying to find those things that bind them together. They appear to be seeking solidarity.