The stay of surrogates at surrogate homes offers distinct advantages as follows:
a)-Our Co-ordinators & Social workers can have a direct control over the surrogates
b)-Surrogate tests, medicines, food, nutrition & hygiene can be strictly monitored
c)-Any unforeseen complications can be immediately attended to
d)-A positive environment can be created for the surrogates through devotional music, extra curricular activities, entertainment tools, & by engaging them in developing vocational skills
e)-Strict monitoring can be done to ensure that the surrogates avoid physical contact through crucial periods of pregnancy
f)-It can be ensured that the surrogates stay away from prohibited activities like smoking, consuming alcohol, eating tobacco, etc
g)-Complete physical & mental rest can be ensured , especially after ET
h)-The surrogates can be provided a family environment by allowing them to be with their husbands & kids regularly
i)-Proper security for the surrogates can be ensured
j)-Human rights of the surrogates can be ensured
k)-Basic needs for a comfortable living can be provided- hot & cold water, coolers & heaters, television & radio, refrigerator & cooking gas, etc.

“As soon as men have figured out how to have babies without women, it will be the end of women kind, it will be the coming gynocide.” -Andrea Dworkin.

Surrogacy is a great place to start in the devaluing of women.

Our second story is by a transgender donor-conceived person- it is a beautiful letter written to hir father, asking him in a number of ways one simple question, who are you?

 

I grew up with an identity problem which affected my relationships and self esteem, not to mention the undescribable “longing” and constant ache to know the piece of me that was missing…

…I was unable to get pregnant, because my eggs were too old. We consulted with a fertility doctor who advised us to use an egg donor.

They just need one of you with deep pockets and a law degree to take it up in court and the law would change.

I’m expecting. A child that is- and best news is, I know who the father is!

The second best news is I didn’t even have to pay him.

We’re very proud of our child’s conception story, though I won’t go into detail about it here. We brought forth new life naturally, with a lot of love and respect. I am already jealous of our child’s life. Even if the kid grows up to hate me and thinks of me as a horrible mother, I know I did one thing right.

But I see why many women delay pregnancy until it’s too late or very difficult. The career crowd isn’t much impressed by your happy news all the time.

We told my family. We told his family. We told my friends. Now we’re starting to tell his friends. We’re entering the second trimester and it’s just now starting to get more real. But there was one person I just couldn’t bring myself to tell until yesterday- my music manager.

When my fiancé and I first became engaged, I was so happy. Everything about the way he did it was special and beautiful and really confirmed what a great guy he is. When I told my manager, the first thing she said to me was, “we can’t tell anyone about this.” Not only people in the music industry, but also my fans.

The second thing she said was, “Don’t get pregnant.”

Whoops… When I told her about the pregnancy, she approached it gently and as politely as she could, but her true feelings showed through when she said, “We’ll deal with it… Worse things have happened.”

Worse things?!

Worse things?!!!

I get pregnant on the first try, without spending thousands of dollars on dangerous fertility drugs- with my enthusiastic, capable, and loving fiancé, as a healthy young woman with a stable middle-class financial situation and I’m told: worse things have happened?!

Society is crazy I’ve decided. She told me that music industry people will be nervous as to your decision to start a family and may think that you aren’t taking your career seriously.

I went into music because I thought it would be a great avenue for being a great mom. You get to pick your hours, make royalties, and can spend a lot of time at home (especially if you have a home recording studio). This choice of mine was affirmed this summer when I met Swedish music royalty Jenny Wilson. She told me, “Being a mother and musician is ideal! You can pick your hours! My only advice is make sure you pick out a great Dad.”

Thanks Jenny! Done. Snagged him.

Is it true that big career success is probably easier for the childless? Sure. I can’t imagine Lady Gaga getting away with what she does if she had little kids. Then again Madonna has a few.

The truth is, I’ve  been hearing stories of how painful childlessness is since I was 5 years old. It started with my mom and her battle to conceive, then when I sold my eggs I got a fresh earful of stories of woe- women who used birth control for years and waited for just the right moment and just the right man and just after they got the promotion they wanted… And now as I operate The Anonymous Us Project, the words are always different but the point is always the same:

Having a child is one of the most important things I will ever do with my life.

Unfortunately for most people, it took them up until too long to figure that out. I have the benefit of many people’s stories and wisdom. And now that a new soul has chosen me as its mother, I’m not going to abort that opportunity just because it makes a few people in the music industry nervous.

I pity the kids from the Partridge Family.

But look at these numbers…

The Association of Reproductive Medicine has guidelines about how many offspring a donor may have in a geographic area. The limit is 25 children per population of 800,000. A friend of mine recently did the math on how many siblings a donor-conceived friend of hers could potentially have, according to the moral and public health guidelines of the ASRM.

Harris County Texas

3,984,349 pop/800,000 = 5 x 25 = 125 children per donor

Texas

24,782,302 pop/800,000 = 31 x 25 = 775 children per donor

U.S.

307,006,550 pop/800,000 = 384 x 25 = 9,600 children per donor

North America

528,720,588 pop/800,000 = 661 x 25 = 16,523 children per donor

Earth

6,775,235,700 pop/800,000 = 8469 x 25 = 211,725 children per donor

I doubt our dear donors will have enough time to catch a coffee with each of their children so much as once a year. That’s bad news for all us kids who be needin’ our papas.

Let us not trust the fertility industry to regulate themselves.

Today in Sweden, married couples (both straight and lesbian) have legal access to sperm donation. However, donors are true to their title and do not receive payment. Each donor is limited to 6 donations. All pregnancies are initiated and assisted by a medical professional (no entrepreneurs). The non-biological social parent must write and sign a letter of consent to the procedure. And all children are given access to their true family origin at age 18, with their father’s information stored centrally, in a protected government database until they wish to access such information. And that information is protected for, I believe, over 70 years.

Single women may not access these services.

However, it takes all of 2 seconds to hop on a train to Copenhagen and impregnate yourself by an anonymous Dane, so the conversation is still pumping here in Stockholm.

Here are some comments from the article, translated by good ole’ Google.

So, she believes that gay boy’s children will have problems with anger and identification. How dare she suggest such a thing?

Like, they’re the result of real and true love, and not old outdatedheteronormativitet. Children * is * a right - for hetrosexuella through the agency of nature, and for certain other groups of a right by law.

- Actually, we should set quotas for the children so that LGBT-pairs have the same number of children per couple hetero-normative-pairs.

By the way, no where in the article did I ever mention anything about gays using ART. Nowhere.

And then there are the these:

One of the most thought-provoking articles on the topic for many years in the Swedish press, with the perspective that often (in our country) is completely absent. The usual (and unthinking) dismissal for ”empatilöshet” do not bite when Alana herself is so concerned by the topic she was talking about that she can be. Maybe why she so masterfully demonstrates the contradictions and lack of consideration of the ”donation industrial complex”?

Google Translate isn’t perfect, but you get the idea.

Just wanted to give an official ‘Thank You’ to Anna Lagerblad for her ear and her article.