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Saturday, April 26, 2003
Children's books ain't what they used to be. At the bottom, so to speak, of the New York Times Book Review's top ten list of bestselling children's paperbacks: The Day My Butt Went Psycho! (Scholastic, $4.99)UPDATE: Tommy, 13, of Texas, says, "I think The Day My Butt Went Psycho! is the best book in the world!" Also, Scholastic's website for the book has a Frogger-like game where your task is to move your butt to the butthutt while avoiding buttcatchers. Your level is displayed above the buttcano. I don't quite know what to make of this, but the game is kinda fun.
posted by Tom Sylvester
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GREAT, IMPORTANT NEWS:WASHINGTON, April 25 (AP) � More black families are headed by married couples and more are living in homes they own, the Census Bureau reported today. ... The report showed a steady increase in the number of black families headed by married couples, to 47.9 percent in 2002 from 47.8 percent in 2000 and 46.1 percent in 1996, the earliest year for which data are available. The six-year increase equals about 520,000 families.The portion of black families headed by single women continued to decline. It was 43 percent last year, one percentage point lower than 2000 and four points lower than in 1996. Yes, it's such good news that I posted it at 3am.
posted by Tom Sylvester
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Friday, April 25, 2003
DAN SAVAGE in the New York Times:When it comes to marriage rights, gays and lesbians are willing to play semantic games. We will use awkward phrases like "civil union" and "domestic partnership" so long as we can get what our families really need: the rights, responsibilities and safeguards of legal marriage.
posted by Tom Sylvester
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Thursday, April 24, 2003
MORE OBJECTIVE THAN THOU?: Martha Fineman, professor of feminist jurisprudence at Cornell Law School, is one of the most prominent critics of the marriage movement. She�s best known for her argument that marriage should be abolished as a legal category. I�m currently reading her book The Illusion of Equality, which argues convincingly that equality-feminist rhetoric in divorce reform has hurt women and children. In one chapter, she criticizes pretensions to objectivity in the social sciences:[O]bjectivity and knowledge come to be closely linked with the researcher�s own subjectivity, and it underscores the importance of the acknowledgment of what feminists have called the personal in one�s work. This in turn implies an open recognition of why some piece of research that one has chosen to do is meaningful. � The point is that the data are never totally separated from the political, personal, and professional opinions of the person manipulating them. (italics in original) Yet in a recent interview, she seems to exempt herself from this phenomenon:Q: Were you divorced or widowed, and how long were you married? A: I think that�s an inappropriate question. My opinion has nothing to do with my personal situation. (Atlanta Journal Constitution, March 29, 2003) There�s nothing wrong with Fineman�s response to the reporter�s question. Her arguments should be judged on their merits, not on whether she is married, divorced, or widowed. But she does seem to have landed herself in a contradiction.
posted by Tom Sylvester
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Arresting, amazing-how-much-we've-changed sentence from a (my sense is pretty typical) college textbook, Marriage and the Family, by Alfred McClung Lee and Elizabeth Briant Lee, published by Barnes and Noble in 1961:"A great deal more wisdom and considerably enlarged social resources are needed to deal with the problems of broken homes in order that the children of the unmarried and divorced will not pass on their unhappy heritage." Some people collect stamps, I collect old marriage and the family textbooks.
posted by David Blankenhorn
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"A German couple have been given a quick divorce on the grounds of 'gross infidelity' after the wife moved in with her new lover just four days after her wedding, a court said on Thursday."
Another over-the-top divorce story here.
posted by David Blankenhorn
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"Marriage" is the title of Steven Bochco's drama series for HBO set to debut next year: "The project -- created, written and executive produced by Bochco and Alison Cross -- is described as an intimate look at the life of a husband (Cake) and wife who are five years into their marriage."
posted by David Blankenhorn
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"Republican sources said the White House was considering proposing a seven-year tax cut rather than a 10-year one to reduce the price tag. Bush could also try to push through his controversial dividend tax cut first, leaving more popular measures, such as child tax credits and marriage tax-penalty relief, for consideration as a separate measure."
posted by David Blankenhorn
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From The Onion:"How Much Do We Love Our Mommy?" 1. More than a birthday cake made of sunbeams. 2. ... ... 6. Less since she started making us call Gary "Daddy"
posted by Tom Sylvester
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MATERNAL FEMINISM (CONT.): "... the existence of paid maternity leave in the Australian public sector meant I could choose to have a baby on my own in the 1980s, when only 20 years earlier marriage, let alone having a baby, would have disqualified me from a career."
posted by David Blankenhorn
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FROM CANADA: "Lawyers for Ottawa are asking the appeals court to overturn a decision of the Ontario Divisional Court, which ruled in July that it is unconstitutional and discriminatory to deny same-sex couples equal rights to have their marriages legally registered. They argue that the universal norm of marriage has always been a culturally approved, opposite-sex relationship intended to encourage the birth and rearing of children."
posted by David Blankenhorn
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PARENTS AS FRIENDS?: A recent New York Times article looked at how parents of teens (especially single parents) in movies and television these days are acting more like warm, supportive friends than stuffy, out-of-touch disciplinarians. It's an interesting trend, with certain positive aspects. But some of it strikes me as just plain weird. I flew to Paris last week, and sitting next to me were two teen girls, flipping through their teen girl magazines. One article that appeared to promote this friendly mother-daughter bonding caught my eye. The headline blared, "Hey Mom, When Did You Lose Your Virginity?"
posted by Tom Sylvester
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From yesterday's WaPo, an interesting analysis of the failure of the Bush Administration's faith-based initiative:After 26 months of tussles over Bush's "faith-based initiative," the sponsor of the legislation in the Senate agreed to remove any mention of religion in a bill whose stated purpose was helping religious charities. All that was left was a package of charitable tax incentives -- and even those were barely 15 percent of the amount Bush had proposed. The "faith-based" legislation -- central to Bush's campaign promise to "rally the armies of compassion" -- had turned into a retreat. Based on what I heard from some of the people involved, it seems that once the initiative began generating political controversy and bad headlines, Karl Rove and the other White House big guns basically decided to focus on other priorities, letting the faith-based initiative slowly and fairly quietly fade away. It's a pity. This initiative had the potential to do some good, and who knows how long it will be before another president or national leader decides to take a serious run at these important issues?
posted by David Blankenhorn
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"Instituted in Louisiana in 1997, the covenant marriage is quite different in some aspects from traditional marriage, according to Dr. Laura Sanchez, an associate professor of sociology at Bowling Green State University, who has been tracking the progress of the social experiment in that state since its inception."
posted by David Blankenhorn
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"Modern families, sex in the scriptures, the role of religion in marriage and numerous topics in between were discussed by scholars from a variety of religious disciplines for three days at Emory University. 'Sex, Marriage, and Family and the Religions of the Book,' was an intense discussion by more than 70 scholars on research papers with titles ranging from 'Happily Ever After? Sex Marriage, and Family in National and Global Profile' to 'Trends in Dating, Mating, and Union Formation Among Young Adults.'"
posted by David Blankenhorn
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Tuesday, April 22, 2003
"My research, however, conducted with women over a 35-year period, from all backgrounds and covering every age group from 15 to 90-plus, tells a rather different story: women are unhappy, perhaps even frustrated, with the quality of service they have been receiving when it comes to sex."
posted by David Blankenhorn
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MATERNAL FEMINISM, ANYONE?:Feminism sent some very powerful messages to girls growing up in the '70s and '80s in Australia. We are all (men and women) beneficiaries of the ground-breaking policy changes brought about by the tireless efforts of a strong band of femocrats, feminist lobbyists and liberationists. But woven into the fabric of this feminism was a very strong message about motherhood. The role of motherhood was presented to my generation as a handicap, a hindrance and potentially a major obstacle to any girl reaching her full potential. It was a man's world we had to take on, and that was to be done in a manly way. Definitely not with a bulge in the stomach or baby on the breast. The truth of motherhood being a handicap was certainly reinforced once we entered the workforce ... The fact that the workplace remains dreadfully family unfriendly; that many working mothers are guilt-stricken and expect to be discriminated against by employers when their dual roles conflict; that many young women erroneously think they can postpone having children well into the second decade of their busy careers; and that an increasing number of young, fertile women are choosing not to have children at all, leads to some big questions for feminism.
posted by David Blankenhorn
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"British children are being brought up on a diet of convenience foods, a new survey reveals today."
posted by David Blankenhorn
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"Sex and romance become more significant to marital happiness over time, according to research": "It debunks the stereotype that men want 'good sex and lots of it' while wives want understanding," said John Gottman, author of The Relationship Cure and co-founder of a marriage clinic ... For those who remain married, years of being together yield an intimacy that trumps even the newly-wed glow, says the study, published in the Reader's Digest.
posted by David Blankenhorn
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Monday, April 21, 2003
THAT'LL GET HIS ATTENTION: In a recent study, an economist at Swarthmore finds that unilateral ("no fault") divorce led to a significant increase in wives killing husbands between 1968 and 1978. The basic thesis is that he was dumping her, she could do nothing to stop him or even slow him down under the new regime of "the weakend marriage contract," so she kills him.
posted by David Blankenhorn
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In the Wilson Quarterly, a review of: TOILET TRAINED FOR YALE: Adventures in 21st-Century Parenting, by Ralph Schoenstein; RECLAIMING CHILDHOOD: Letting Children Be Children in Our Achievement-Oriented Society, by William Crain; PARANOID PARENTING: Why Ignoring the Experts May Be Best for Your Child, by Frank Furedi; and RAISING AMERICA: Experts, Parents, and a Century of Advice about Children, by Ann Hulbert.
Here's an excerpt:In her beautifully written and engaging study, Raising America, Ann Hulbert displays a sense of balance and proportion often lacking in discussions of child rearing. Hulbert, the author of The Interior Castle: The Art and Life of Jean Stafford (1992), presents a detailed and masterly history of ideas about parenting from the late 19th century to the present. She finds that child rearing advice nearly always falls into one of two camps, the �hard� or the �soft.� Advocates of a hard, or parent-centered, approach tend toward a �sterner and more masculine� attitude toward child rearing. They believe that nurture counts more than nature, so strict discipline is required. By contrast, advocates of the soft, or child-centered, approach, more �empathetic and effusive,� seek to encourage children�s natural development through parental love and bonding.
posted by David Blankenhorn
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FROM NYTs: First chapter, The Wife.
posted by David Blankenhorn
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FROM AUSTRALIA: "Construction workers have rejected a plan to allow part-time work on building sites despite waging a campaign for shorter hours so they can see more of their families."
posted by David Blankenhorn
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PARENTING BOOKS: In The Atlantic, a review of Ann Hulbert's Raising America: Experts, Parents, and a Century of Advice About Children, and Peter N. Stearns's Anxious Parents: A History of Modern Childrearing in America. Interesting sentence: "There's the explosion of parenting books, five times as many of which were published in 1997 as in 1975."
posted by David Blankenhorn
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Sunday, April 20, 2003
DOWNSHIFTING (CONT.): "In 1997, 1.7 million people in Britain had 'downshifted', accepting lower pay and more modest living conditions in return for liberation from the drudgery of office life. By last year that figure had soared to 2.6 million, according to research published last week. It is expected to reach 3.7 million by 2007."
posted by David Blankenhorn
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"They are slick, professional -- and ready to go to jail for their belief that fathers get a raw deal from the divorce courts. The militant men's rights movement has arrived in Britain. Men are being openly encouraged by a new pressure group, Fathers 4 Justice, to break the law to highlight the cause of those denied access to their children. The group claims to have acquired up to 1,000 members in four months."
posted by David Blankenhorn
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A mother's heavy drinking during pregnancy triples the likelihood of her unborn child developing alcohol-related problems, a 30-year study shows.
posted by David Blankenhorn
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