“I wish I had a father who was around and involved.”

02.26.2013, 11:18 AM

At the Weekly Standard, Heather Mac Donald quotes President Obama, in Chicago recently, speaking on the topic of gun violence as saying:

 “There’s no more important ingredient for success, nothing that would be more important for us reducing violence than strong, stable families, which means we should do more to promote marriage and encourage fatherhood,” he [Pres. Obama] said. Reiterating a line from his State of the Union speech, he observed: “What makes you a man is not the ability to make a child; it’s the courage to raise one.” And though he paid the obligatory tribute to single mothers, he added with remarkable candor: “I wish I had had a father who was around and involved.” 

Yes.


5 Responses to ““I wish I had a father who was around and involved.””

  1. Diane M says:

    I like this way of framing it. The point is that good men take care of their children.

  2. IVFDad says:

    This is so true. I wish the law would allow fathers to be around their sons, especially the ones who want to take responsibility of raising loving children.

  3. Mont D. Law says:

    (“I wish I had had a father who was around and involved.”)

    But I’ll bet he’s pretty clear eyed that his actual father was not a candidate for this position and the state forcing him into that role would be a bad idea for both a young Barrack and his mother.

  4. ki sarita says:

    states do not and can not force relationships; they force the monetary aspect only.

  5. Diane M says:

    @Mont D Law – “But I’ll bet he’s pretty clear eyed that his actual father was not a candidate for this position”

    Is he? I didn’t have the impression that Obama thought his father was a terrible person.

    The state obviously couldn’t force anything, but what about social expectations? Is it fair to expect divorced parents to live near each other, for example? Or to expect men to be faithful to their wives so they don’t end up divorced?

    What if we had the idea that once you have children, divorce is never going to be a full divorce? You’re going to have to go on living near each other and interacting and working out conflicts.