The following is our most recent submission to Anonymous Us:
Mom of a donor egg child
I read carefully many of the entries of the site trying to understand how some donor children experience their conditions of conception and birth. These feelings serve me as an egg donor mother to think about how to tell my daugther her coming into the world. She is two years old now but I started telling her as soon as she was born.
I am in favor of non-anonymous donation and I truly regret I haven’t had the chance to thank the donor woman that allowed my daughter and I be together in this life.
True, we do not share some of the genes (all human beings share 95% of our genes, actually). The genes she inherited from the donor (sorry, not biological mother) will determine, partially, her external appearance.
Are family roots significant? Of course, including the genetic origins but they are not the only relevant source for one’s identities — identities that are multiple, varied and change over our life course. But family roots are also those related to your up-bringing so I hope I can transmit to her not to be overly obsessive about genetics.