Sadly, it appears the NYT did not wish to accept my letter in response to Frank Bruni’s column last Sunday, Jan 19, so I’ll share my two cents here:
To the editor:
I have mixed feelings responding to Frank Bruni’s column, “Love, Marriage, and Voters,” for I cannot imagine that Colorado governor Hickenlooper’s ex-wife, Helen Thorpe, intended for the private details of their marriage’s end to be made public by her ex-husband and celebrated by Frank Bruni.
That said, I want to caution any couple considering divorce that Hickenlooper and Thorpe’s vision of a “good” divorce—in which they plan to spend holidays and vacations together for the benefit of their son—is unlikely to survive longer than it takes one of them to find a new partner, who undoubtedly will not wish to spend much free time with a lover’s ex. In the end, a wife who could consider staying married for the sake of a presidential run might also be counseled to consider staying married so that their son could grow up in one family.