Marriage Media
Week of December 23, 2011
Courtesy of Bill Coffin
1. 2012: The President’s Marriage Agenda for the Forgotten Sixty Percent, The State of Our Unions, Institute for American Values
“Marriage in Middle America is at a tipping point, with unwed childbearing threatening to become a new norm,” said report co-author W. Bradford Wilcox, director of the National Marriage Project and a professor of sociology at U.Va.
See replies from 14 scholars and opinion leaders across the country here.
2. Understanding How Children Develop Empathy, New York Times
Don’t offer material rewards for prosocial behavior, but do offer opportunities to do good — opportunities that the child will see as voluntary. And help children see themselves and frame their own behavior as generous, kind, helpful, as the mother in my exam room did.
3. Skills That Make Us a Good Partner Make Us a Good Parent, ScienceDaily
Being a good partner may make you a better parent, according to a new study. The same set of skills that we tap to be caring toward our partners is what we use to nurture our children, researchers found.
4. Dangers of Cohabitation, Religion and Ethics Column
The National Crime Victimization Survey of the Justice Department over 9 years reported that 65% of violent crimes against women were committed by a boyfriend or an ex-husband with only 9% caused by a husband.
5. Marriage Advice: Pre-marital Check List Helps Build a Successful Marriage, News Sentinel
Researcher Scott Stanley has found that couples who cohabitat tend to “slide” into marriage rather than actually deciding on it. . . The result: One party often sees it as a step toward marriage; the other sees it as simply “roommates with benefits.”
6. Marriage Culture Called Key to Stable Middle Class, Washington Times
“The plight of this population who once married in high proportions and formed families within marriage — and who still aspire to marriage, but increasingly are unable to achieve it — is the social challenge for our times.”
7. 10 Steps for Arguing Instead of Fighting, Psychology Today
Fighting
- Raising voices
- Bringing up the past
- Name-calling
- Problem-focused
Arguing
- Calm voices
- Mutual respect
- Focused on one issue
- Solution-focused
So how do you move from fighting to arguing? . . .
For more, see here.
Categories: Marriage
ex husbands committing most of the violent attacks on women- that says nothing about cohabitation.
It’s a well known to domestic violence activists that the most dangerous time for a woman in an abusive relationship is upon leaving.
I’d also say that once the marriage is over, is when people are more likely to report the violence.