So Now I’m A DC Kid…

08.25.2010, 1:44 PM

My Father's Daughter

Funny how God often throws you curve balls when you don’t even realize you are up to bat.

The Lord changed my life unexpectedly last May when I discovered at 32 years old that my parents used a sperm donor to conceive me. 

Though I wasn’t part of the survey, I find myself in the category of the 32% of donor conceived adults who identify themselves as Protestant according to MDND (pg. 69). Yet I’ve found no one else online who is talking about being donor conceived from a Christian perspective.  It was that frustration coupled with the desire to not waste my experience that prompted me to begin blogging.

The longer version of my story can be found here, but the gist of it is that my mother unexpectedly told me the secret about my conception when I asked her about my dad’s health issues.  She hadn’t planned on telling me that day, and I hadn’t planned on opening up Pandora’s Box. 

It was shocking and life-altering to learn that my sweet Dad wasn’t my flesh-and-blood father.  I truly did mourn the loss of what I thought was a full, unbroken relationship.  And then I began mourning the loss of the sperm donor – my biological father.  Even more than a year later, I still can’t believe that I have a “biological father.”

But it is what it is.  And God has been so kind to me…even in this.  And perhaps because of this, I’m seeing His kindness even more clearly.

4 Responses to “So Now I’m A DC Kid…”

  1. polly says:

    ……yes Stephanie… is wonderful to have you here.

    Stephanie, I am an (old!) adoptee; living in Australia. We have much in common as I too live with half my genealogical parent/history unknown to me.

    At a monthly sharing group for adoptees and DC persons last week…someone said (of us)….”we are a breed apart”. True.

    Sadly, many adoptees and DC persons feel disconnected not only from their kin, but also from others whose life experience resonates with their own.

    Connecting with others helps to “normalise” and very strange (and difficult) life experience.

  2. David Blankenhorn says:

    Thank you, so much, Stephanie. And welcome!

  3. Alana S. says:

    welcome stephanie!!!