At this post an adult male donor offspring writes this:
As a donor conceived offspring I was a breath away from donating myself. Why? Because I was carrying the burden of existential debt and felt that I had to give back to the process that created me. I was indebted and had to justify my own existence. I am glad I didn’t because it would have been the biggest mistake of my life.
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I would like to add to Alana’s comments re DC persons who themselves choose to “donate”.
Her belief that it makes a physical/emotional “life experience connection” with their unknown parent makes perfect sense to me. As an adult adopted person who has assisted many many others with an adoption experience; I have similarly witnessed the same phenomena in adoption.
Adopted persons who become birthparents; birthparents who become adoptive parents; adoptees who adopt; and sometimes adoptees who relinquish their child; then later become an adoptive parent.
I have no doubt that there will be DC persons whose life patterns will resemble those in adoption.
It was a surprise to me to read in the report that adopted persons have not (in the US) indicated that they have donated ova/sperm/embryos.
Although anecdotal, I have heard of many instances in Australia where adopted persons have been donors of ova/sperm. Again, the desire to “connect” with their own bio parents’ experience of giving/losing.
When surrogacy issues were emerging in the 1980s; it was recognised that women who became surrogates were often women who had relinquished a child for adoption in the past. Yet again, the need to “redeem” or strengthen the past experience of loss.
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