Responding to Ross Douthat’s column, “The Birds and the Bees (via the Fertility Clinic)” about our new report, one reader left the following comment at nytimes.com:
For possibly the first and last time, Mr. Douthat, I am in complete agreement with you! As a family therapist, who has worked with many families of adoption and sperm donation, I have seen the effect on children who will NEVER be allowed to know who their biological father and his family are. Adopted children have ways to find their biological families, if they wish–and many do not! But children of sperm donors do not have the right of knowing their biological heritage, even if they want this terribly!
Americans are delusional about the idea that excellent parenting can make all of this unimportant and beside the point. Truth be told, it never has been beside the point, and never will be! All of us–on some level–want to know our biological/psychological heritage! To have access to this information would be liberating for so many of these “sperm donor” children, now grown up! And make our “feel good” culture more authentic and mature!
Categories: My Daddy's Name is Donor, Reproductive Technologies
